Wednesday, December 16, 2015

Are teens really so bad at time management? Or is there something else going on?

Here is yet another post about how teens can plan their time effectively. It would have been no use to me, in high school or college. These plans presuppose that the teen is interested and motivated. You can't get motivated to do something you don't care about, however wonderful, new and shiny the method is.

When our kids procrastinate, consider that they just aren't interested; when you remind them, and they resist, consider that what you're causing is simple anxiety, and worse, a deflating sense of self-respect.

What would happen if we allowed kids to choose challenging tasks for themselves, and gave them the support and resources they needed to pursue it? What would happen if they were motivated enough to push through the hard parts?

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Talent and Determination: How do we bring it out in ALL students?

Imagine what happens when diligence, determination and talent collide! Ken Robinson calls it "the element"...some call it "flow".

The thing it our responsibility to create an environment where all kids get a chance to find out where that collision takes place?

Do ALL kids have some kind of ability that sets them apart?

We're all taxpaying parents...don't we deserve a system that works for ALL our children, instead of the ones whose talent, diligence and determination is obvious to the adults present?

Interested in your thoughts on this.

Almost theeeere.....almost theeeere....

In the culminating moments of Star Wars: A New Hope one of the pilots strains to see the target that will, when hit, result in the blowing up of the Death Star. But he misses. "It didn't go in," he says, with a voice of serious dejection.

Sometimes bloggers talking about parenting their teens come so close....but it doesn't go in.

I don't know if you can see this link -- you might have to "like" the page. But it's worth it for this article. She gets some of it right. For example:

"...think about if your anxiety over them struggling in the early years to do homework is more about YOU as a parent--"A GOOD parent can make their child do their homework." "I'm a good parent because my child is smart and does what she's supposed to." "My child is a true leader!" "Look how smart and creative he is...!" Take a moment and think about this. We ALL fall into this as parents--thinking the "grade" we'll get in Parenting 101 is based on how our child behaves. And this is what gets us into those jams...those struggles...those conflicts to "make our child do their homework" (or anything else we really want them to do!) that can leave afternoons and evenings a total wreck. Because really, we cannot control our children."

Take a look at the rest of the text. Where does she get it wrong? It seems full of sound advice. But where does she lose her grasp of the argument about not controlling kids?

Interested in your thoughts!